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 THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum al-ithnayn, 10th day of Muharram 1444AH. (Monday, 8th of August 2022).

MY WIFE IS TOO DEMANDING, HOW DO I HANDLE HER, CAN I DIVORCE HER IF I CANNOT AFFORD HER FINANCIAL DEMANDS?. BismilLah. 


The wife has no right to mistreat her husband by asking him for too much and expecting him to exhaust himself in spending on her; that is bad treatment indeed. Perhaps if you grant her some of her reasonable requests and remind her, gently and tactfully, of the requests that you have fulfilled, you may be able to lessen her anger somewhat and persuade her to stop asking for more. You could also discuss with her, quietly and without resorting to arguing, how important her requests really are and how necessary it is to keep a certain amount for things that are more important, like paying the rent and so on. This may also persuade her to stop asking.

Know that what your lack of financial resources can be compensated for with kind words and promises for when things get better. When ALLAH mentioned taking care of ones relatives and upholding family ties, HE also mentioned what a person can do who does not have money to give to his relatives. HE says: And if you turn away from them (relatives, the poor etc. whom We have ordered you to give their rights, but you have no money at the time they ask for it) and you are awaiting a mercy from your Lord for which you hope, then speak unto them a kind, soft word (i.e., ALLAAH will give me and I shall give you). [al-Isra 18:28].


Let's Know that a good attitude will make her forget the hardship you are going through. You have to be patient and treat her kindly, whilst repeating your advice. If life becomes too difficult and the situation between you deteriorates to such an extent that you reach a total impasse, if your efforts do not succeed and life becomes unbearable, then ALLAH has permitted divorce in such cases, and this may indeed be better for both parties, as HE says: But if they separate (by divorce), ALLAH will provide abundance for everyone of them from HIS Bounty. And ALLAH is Ever All-Sufficient for HIS creatures need, All-Wise. [al-Nisa 4:130]. ISLAM is a beautiful religion indeed. AlhamdulilLah. May ALLAH keep guiding us all and protect our marriages from any satanic influences. Aameen.

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