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 THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum al-ithnayn, 30th day of Rabeeul Awwal (Monday 16th November. 2020).

TREATING HUSBANDS WELL TO PLEASE ALLAH Bismillah.


Let's continue with our topic yesterday;

Again, like all rights and obligations in Islam (in marriage and other areas), it is important that BOTH parties understand them and exert their best efforts to apply them in the way that is pleasing to ALLAH Most High.


As we saw in the verse from An-Nisa quoted in Yesterday's reminder, it is the right of the husband that his wife obey him. This obedience, however, does not include anything which is disobedience to ALLAH. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "No obedience in what is sinful. Obedience is only in what is right." [Muslim & Bukhari].


Two things are now clear: 

1) A woman is obligated to obey her husband, and 2) no Muslim may obey anyone in what is disobedience to ALLAH. Additionally, one strong opinion limits the required obedience of the wife to those duties being described. In other words, the husband should not seek to control every detail of her life, even in things which have no direct impact on his rights as her husband.


It is the obligation of the wife to respond whenever her husband calls her to come to bed unless there is a strong reason why she cannot. Again, like in the issue of leadership, this is the way which ALLAH has given us to live which is best for us - since nothing we do or do not do cannot in any way harm or benefit ALLAH Most High. Thus, when women resist this and insist on being the ones who call the shots in this regard or that it is somehow 50/50, it is only the two of them who will suffer. It will lead to frustration, marital discord and the husband's desire to seek fulfillment of his needs elsewhere. If he ends up turning to the haram, then a very great harm indeed has been inflicted upon society. This point is clear from many hadith, among them:

"Whenever a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses to come, the angels curse her until morning." [Al-Bukhari]. May ALLAH keep guiding our marriages and protect it from any satanic influences. Aameen.

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