THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Al-Khamis, 15th day of Rajab, 1440, (Thursday, 21st March, 2019). IS MARRIAGE COMPULSORY?. BismilLaahir Rahmaanir Raheem. The Ulamaa (Scholars of Islam) have stated that ruling on marriage differs according to the state and conditions of each person. It can be highly recommended in some cases, or even obligatory under certain conditions. It can also be prohibited or only permitted under other circumstances. Below is a summary based on scholars deliberation on marriage. 1. Marriage is considered fard (obligatory) if a person is so tormented by sexual desire that he/she fears falling into the sin of fornication. Since staying away from fornication is obligatory, and since marriage is the only avenue for legitimate sexual satisfaction, it becomes obligatory on such a person to get married. This is based on the principle in jurisprudence that says: “If an obligatory thing cannot be fulfilled except by fulfilling another, then fulfilling the latter becomes equally obligatory.” If a person has no means to marry and is, therefore, incapable of fulfilling his spousal duties, but has strong desire, it is permitted for him to get married provided he tries earnestly to seek an honest source of living. ALLAH has promised to help such a person. We must also add here a further note that the Muslim community has a duty to assist such people until such time that they become self-reliant. Individuals who can should strive to help brothers and sisters who shows signs of wanting to marry. If, however, no such measures are available, and a person finds himself unable to fulfill his spousal duties, he is advised to curb his desires through the discipline of fasting and other acts of sublimation.” 2. If, however, he or she is not so tormented by sexual desire, and, hence, there is no fear of falling into sin, then it is highly recommended to get married if one has the means to do so. By doing so, one is fulfilling one of the great Sunnahs of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), our perfect role model. For those who can afford both Male and Female, go for it as the Prophet sallalLaahu Alaihi Wasallam warned that whoever intentionally object marrying will not be among his followers on judgement day and that's very very serious warning especially our sisters who feels they've got whatever they want and not interested in marriage. 3. If a person knows for certain that he or she cannot fulfill the duties required in marriage such as those with serious Anger problems, those with some sort of illnesses to impact their sexuality, and there is no fear of him/her falling into sin, then it becomes haram for such a person to get married. Islam forbids us from doing injustice to another person; this would definitely be the case if one were to neglect his/her spousal duties. Please understand that, ALLAH Created us for a Purpose of Worshipping HIM and even though marriage is an act of worship, we must fulfil marriage rules as soon as we choose to go for someone's daughter or accept to marry a brother. Its a trust from ALLAH and whoever abuse his wife or her husband will definitely pay for it even on earth before judgement day so let's fear ALLAH and cater for our wives in particular well. If your wife cry out of been abuse by a husband then seek her forgiveness before you die to meet ALLAH. If you can't make her happy anymore, sincerely return her to her Parents with a gift to sustain her till she is able to remarry or divorce her with a gift so that she doesn't hate you much and find a way of getting her to understand your decision not to ignore her or dump her as if you pick her from the roadside. ALLAH has promised to bless couples who divorce with understanding that they cannot fulfill their rights towards each other anyone or atleast one cannot fulfill their rights to the other. There must be mutual respect to each others feelings to earn ALLAH'S blessings after the divorce. May ALLAH keep guiding us all in our marriages and grant our single sisters and brothers good partners. Aameen.