THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaumul Jumuat, 9th day of Rajab, 1440, (Friday, 15th March, 2019). CARING FOR OUR WIVES MUST BE A PRIORITY OF EVERY HUSBAND. Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem. Marriage in Islam is a covenant or contract between us and ALLAH as such we will be accountable to ALLAH as to how we handled someone's daughter we married by accepting to cater for her as instructed by ALLAH and HIS Messenger. The husband has to treat his wife in a good and kind manner, and to spend on her food, drink, clothing and accommodation, because ALLAH says in the QUR'AN; “and live with them honourably (the wives)”[al-Nisa 4:19]. How do you honour an important guest to your home? Our wives deserve better than that. ALLAH says in the QUR'AN; “And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And ALLAH is All-Mighty, All-Wise” [al-Baqarah 2:228]. Marrying someone's daughter means you've accepted to cater for her needs as such by doing so, you are rewarded by ALLAH as sadaqah. Even sexual relationship within the marriage, happy moments, smiles etc are recorded as sadaqah for both as such let's ignore whatever errors that arrises from the wife and concentrate in caring for her hournorably with intention to gain the blessings of ALLAH. Whenever the marriage start losing its flavour whereby each partner is unable to offer each other's rights, then let's fear ALLAH and arrange for divorce after all attempts to reconcile fails. Never divorce your wife with anger without involvement of the two families who came together for the marriage in the first place. If bringing them fails please make an effort to explain to her family as to why you have decided to divorce their daughter even if on phone. Each must then fear ALLAH and avoid backbiting and slandering each other especially to our new partners trying to justify why you divorced her. Do not speak to anyone about your ex wife or husband except what's good. That's a major sin and ALLAH will punish you for that. Note that the devil you know is better than the Angel you don't know. For my sisters, please do not accept to marry any man who speak ill of his first wife, he will do the same to you mark it on the wall. Refuse his proposal as soon as he start slandering his first wife. I don't care if he is the richest, handsome plus Imam, ignore him please unless if you can establish the first wife became selfish and committed adultery which resulted in the divorce. Those with children with the divorcee must arrange an amicable way of supporting the children financially whilst with their mother. Our sisters in such situations must ensure they are fair in treating their ex-partner in caring for the children and in all ways please note ALLAH is watching you and recording your attitudes towards each other. The children must not suffer much because of the divorce. Brothers are advised to marry our sisters who are divorced and help them to rebuild their lonely lives. Those who are capable of marrying second to 4th wives should consider marrying divorcees or widows with children and that maybe our keys for Jannat in shaa ALLAH and allow our single virgin girls to marry single brothers 😊. Our sisters who are divorced/widows MUST avoid thinking of not marrying again as the Prophet sallalLaahu Alaihi Wasallam warned that, whoever chooses not to marry would not be considered as a member of his ummah on judgement day, that's serious matter isn't it? If you want to meet the Messenger of ALLAH, then never die as unmarried sister unless if you tried all your best to find a husband failed and ALLAH knows better if you did try. May ALLAH keep guiding us all and protect our marriages from any satanic influences. Aameen.