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THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaum Al-Sabt, 6th Jumaadal Awwal 1440, (Saturday, 12th January, 2019). CAN I OBEY MY PARENTS ORDER OR COMMANDS TO DIVORCE MY WIFE? BismilLaahir Rahmaanir Raheem. Undoubtedly our parents are those who are most deserving of respect, obedience and kind treatment. ALLAH mentions the command to treat parents well alongside the command to worship HIM as HE says (interpretation of the meaning): “And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but HIM. And that you be dutiful to your parents”[al-Isra’ 17:23]. Obedience to parents is obligatory on the child with regard to that which will benefit them and will not harm the child or what is good. With regard to that which does not bring them any benefits or which will cause harm to the child, and more importantly goes agaist the commands of ALLAH, he does not have to obey them in that case. Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may ALLAH have mercy on him) said in al-Ikhtiyaaraat (p. 114): A person is obliged to obey his parents with regard to that which is not sinful, even if they are immoral evildoers. This has to do with that which is beneficial for them and not harmful to him. Divorce with no acceptable reason is something that is hated by ALLAH, because it destroys the blessings of marriage and exposes the family to destruction and the children to loss. It may also involve injustice towards the woman. Based on this, he does not have to obey his parents and divorce his wife, and that is not regarded as being disobedient towards them. But the son should express his refusal to divorce her in a kind and gentle manner, because ALLAH says (interpretation of the meaning): “say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour [al-Isra’ 17:23]. You can only accept his recommendation to divorce her if she commit evil deeds and disobey ALLAH as Prophet Ibrahim Alaihi Salaam recommended his son Ismaeel to divorce his wife because she was not obedience to ALLAH and did not appreciate what ALLAH has bestowed on them. May ALLAH (Al-Haadi, The Guide) keep guiding us and our parents and protect us from any satanic influences. Aameen.

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