THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaumul Ithnayn, 26th day of Rabeeul Awwal 1440, (Monday, 3rd December, 2018). Tips for a Happy and Successful Marriage
summarised from Dr. Aaisha Hamdan Inline with Islamic Teachings, May ALLAH bless her. BismilLahir Rahmaanir Raheem.
The following are tips for both wives and husbands and also single brothers and sisters, to help make the task a little less daunting or seeming difficult to deal with, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship known as Marriage.
First of all, please enter or be in the Marriage with the Right Intention and Renew this Often. Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing ALLAH, subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to receive HIS grace and blessings. By so doing, you will choose the right spouse with priority to his or her acts of worship not just their looks or wealth. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. ALLAH (Azza Wa Jal, The Mighty and the Majestic) will be pleased with such marriage and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.
Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam. Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. Muslims should always remember that one's spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship. Obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles. Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. This rarely, if ever, plays out in reality and can lead to unnecessary problems and concerns. We should recall that ALLAH, subhanahu wa ta'ala, created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage
To be continued tomorrow in shaa ALLAH. May ALLAH (Al-Haadi, The Guide) keep guiding us all and protect our marriages and pending marriages from any satanic influences. Aameen.
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