THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaumul Ahad, 21st day of Muharram 1440, (Monday 1st October, 2018). POLYGAMY IS A BLESSINGS FROM ALLAH, GO FOR IT IF YOU CAN AFFORD. BismilLaahir Rahmaanir Raheem. Polygamy is becoming more and more popular these days alhamdulillah. It's a blessings from Allah to test those who accept this trial from Allah. Being a second wife is hard. As a second wife you are coming into ‘hostile’ encumbered territory populated with a lot of baggage (co wife or wives, kids, in laws). As a second wife, you are often the demonised ‘home wrecker’ or ‘husband snatcher’ or ‘evil stepmother’. Entering into polygamy has got to be one of the biggest risks any woman can take in her quest for marital happiness. It may well be a disaster or success depending on the type of husband one is blessed with. I am of the strong opinion that one can achieve marital harmony in polygamy as long as one is mindful and conscious of the rights of all parties involved. Mutual respect and Acceptance can go a long way in deflecting the issues that come with polygamy. Almost on a weekly basis I get requests to address polygamy and its issues, mostly because we are not doing things as we ought to do andhere goes… Polygamy is a permitted marriage in Islam. If you struggle with this fact, it is a problem with your own faith, not your husband’s action. Do not feel guilty. If you feel guilty you are suggesting that the Sunnah is wrong, or Allah is wrong to permit it waeeyaazu bilLah. Allah says in Quran 2:216; ....perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not. So be clear that this type of marriage can be and can flourish on condition that the man is FAIR and HONEST with both of his wives. This is very important (If your husband is badly behaved after the new marriage, that is a problem with him and not this Sunnah). Polygamy does have guidelines which must be followed to make it successful in shaa Allaah. If you cannot be responsible man then it becomes forbidden for you. You must ensure you treat the second wife as you do to the first wife and vice versa. May Allah keep guiding us all and protect us from any satanic influences. Aameen.