THIRD REMINDER. Yaum Ar-Raaba'a, 6th day of Shawwaal (Wednesday 20th June). DO NOT CURSE OR ABUSE ANYONE. BismilLaahir Rahmaanir Raheem. Let's conclude on our topic today. Please request for a copy if you missed any. It's a sad reality that most times we see parents and their children abusing and cursing bcs they don't agree to their sons or daughters choice of marriage partner AstaghfirulLah. We also see parents trying to force their sons and daughters into marriages they don't agree to and leads to curses and abuses. How can we stop this especially the children on difficult parents. First approach your mum. If your mother loves receiving flowers or anything else she loves, then do that for her before you speak to her. Tell her how much you love her and that you want the best for her in the dunya and the akhirah. And then go on to tell her about the importance of your decision, why you chose that brother or sister and what it means not to support you. Tell her Mum, I really love you and I want you to attain the highest ranks of Jannah, and I feel that following Allah's Commands are the only way for us to do that. I truly want you and Dad to experience eternal happiness. I want you and dad to support me for ALLAH sake, that's where I see my happiness lies. The above is an example, but what I am trying to highlight is the importance of observing your parents' needs before you approach them with something so sensitive. They'll appreciate you for paying attention to their little likes and dislikes. Parents might get annoyed at the fact that their child, whom they have brought up and whom they have taught everything he or she knows, is telling them their choice is wrong. They will get upset or argue with you, but at such times, the best thing to do is just step back and keep quiet. Don't say anything until they've calmed down a little. Most importantly, don't lose your temper. Not only will it undo everything you have done so far, you will also accrue sin for being rude to your parents. Let's just avoid inviting Satan into our family. Take this simple advice from me, NEVER EVER IGNORE YOUR PARENTS because of a brother or sister you intend to marry. Obedience to our parents and been kind to parents is more important in Islam than marriage. May ALLAH keep guiding us all and aid us to practice what we learn. Aameen.