TREATING HUSBANDS WELL TO PLEASE ALLAH

DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDER. Yawm al-khamis, 3rd day of Rabeeu ath-thaani 1447AH, Thursday, 25th September, 2025.

 Bismillah.

In yesterday's reminder, I reminded my fellow brothers about the good treatment of our wives. I want to remind our sisters today about their part to play. 

ALLAH Azzawajal commanded the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam to tell us that:

"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because ALLAH Azzawajal has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to ALLAH and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what ALLAH orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.)., ..." [Noble Quran 4:34].

The verse seems to present a great right of the husband over the wife. Upon deeper thought, it is clear that this verse actually points to a right of the wife and an obligation of the husband. The word for "in charge of" in Arabic also indicates support, protection and responsibility on the part of the husband for his wife. This does not just mean that he is the "boss" or the dictator in the house and whatever he says goes. Rather, it means that he has a heavy obligation to lead his family. Remember the hadith of the Prophet, where in one version of the hadith about the "shepherds", the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) continues:

"...until the man will be asked about the people in his household: did he establish among them the law of ALLAH or did he allow it to become lost?.

Likewise, Muslim women must learn to accept this situation and this ruling of ALLAH Most High. They should resist becoming like the disbelieving women, particularly in the "West", who are trying to take over as head of the household or think that it should be shared equally between the two spouses. The rapid degeneration and disappearance of the institution of marriage since the spreading of this corrupt belief is the clearest proof of all that it is not only against ALLAN'S order and HIS plan for us, but also against human nature and completely out of touch with reality and unworkable. I believe that the latest figures are that over HALF of the children in the U.S and Europe are being raised in single-parent homes!

Women who follow the kuffar and their own desires in being jealous of the man's role and trying to claim some or all of it for themselves abandon the husband and rely on government support in raising the children in a fatherless manner which is basically against the rules of ALLAH Azzawajal.  

May ALLAH Azzawajal aid our sisters to act as Muslim women for ALLAH's sake not as so-called modern women. Aameen.