THE DAILY ISLAMIC REMINDERS. Yaumul Jumuat. 8th day of Shaw'waal, 1444AH (Friday, 28th April 2023).

WHY DATING THE NON ISLAMIC WAY IS HARAAM (Forbidden/Unlawful) In Islam. BismilLah. 

Most people justify dating with the notion that they just want to know each other better before they can marry. Islam believes that anything that can cause people to sin should be avoided before a person falls into temptation and it is so with dating. 

The following are some of the reasons why dating is haram in Islam:

First, those dating start their date at a time when they're not really ready and well prepared to enter into marriage (e.g. students dating secretly or openly while in school). They are exposed to many temptations that normally end in disappointment and separation, which is against the ethics of Islam.

Those dating usually meet alone in a secret place and it is where most romantic affairs starts as the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wasallam) have warn us on that in a hadith saying (whenever a man and a woman are alone in a place shaytan is the third). He would persuade them to gaze at ease other lustfully, which often fall them into temptation. And ALLAH commanded us to lower our gaze, where He said in Surah Nuur 24:30.

Those dating normally speaks or express their love in a lustful and soft way that cause the couples to fall into temptation. ALLAH even ordered the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wasallam) to tell his wives and the believing women to speak in an honourable way as in Surah Ahzab 33:32. It contradicts dating and all that it holds.

Those dating usually shake/hold hands with each other which is the initial stage of intimacy and Islam prohibit it by the sayings of the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) (It is better for one of you to be pierced by a steel pin in his head than to touch the hand of a woman who is not lawful to him). And Abu Hurayrah said [The temptation of the hands is fast striking]. The shaking hands is a strong weapon used by Satan to let us end in wrong.

Those dating normally spend the night together and execute the shameful act. Narrated by Abdallah Bun Jaabir, the Prophet (Sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said (Behold, no person should spend the night with a woman, but only in the case he married to her or he is a mahram (relative). Most spend the night and fornicate where as the Quran warn us not to even come near to zina in (QUR'AN 17:32). 

ay ALLAH, protect us from any acts that will lead to any disobedience and keeps guiding us all. Aameen.