THIRD REMINDER. Monday. HUGE DOWRIES/MAHAR, AN OBSTACLE TO MARRIAGE, WHAT ARE THE SOLUTIONS? Bismillah Let's continue from the first reminder; As for the advice to maintain chastity, for those who cannot afford to get married, It is to be found in the verse in which Allah, may He be exalted, says: “But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty”[an-Noor 24:33]. Sheikh At-Tabari (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Allah, may He be exalted, says: “But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations]” which means let those who cannot afford to marry refrain from doing that which Allah has forbidden to them of immoral deeds, until Allah enriches them from His vast bounty and expands His provision to them. Tafseer at-Tabari (19/166). This abstention that is enjoined in this verse is also mentioned in the verses in which Allah, May He be exalted, says “Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do” [an-Noor 24:30]. “And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way” [al-Israa’ 17:32], The Muslim is either able to afford to get married, in which case he must get married, or he is unable to afford the expenses of marriage, in which case he must abstain and remain chaste by means of fasting, lowering the gaze and keeping away from temptation, until Allah makes it easy for him to get married. May Allah keep guiding us all and aid us to be able to cater for our wives and also marry more if we can, to ease the pressure on our single sister🙈. Aameen.